The Cantor and choice of music/hymns.
The liturgy of marriage is a celebration of the entire community. It calls for family members, friends and members of the parish community to gather around the couple not as spectators, but as active participants in a liturgy.
A good cantor (the word comes from the Latin and means "song leader") inspires participation during the wedding liturgy. As a minister of hospitality, the cantor can take a few minutes before the procession to welcome the arriving guests and lead a short rehearsal of unfamiliar music, if necessary. In a friendly and inviting manner, the cantor in one parish explains, "It is our parish's custom to sing the liturgy. Since we come from different places, let us take a moment as we begin to rehearse the responsorial psalm." This simple act of hospitality lets the assembly know that there is an expectation that all will participate in the singing.
The cantor is also usually the psalmist for the liturgy, proclaiming the verses of the responsorial psalm during the liturgy of the word and leading the assembly in singing the refrain. A soloist should never replace the cantor or sing in place of the assembly. The cantor leads the assembly in its sung prayer, and a soloist performs for an audience.
Many people are reticent to sing at weddings. Sometimes, it's because they are not Catholic or because they have not been to church in a while. Often, they've just gotten used to listening to music at weddings rather than taking part in the singing. Experience has shown that assemblies feel more confident singing acclamations, hymns and songs when led by a cantor from the front of the church. If your parish doesn't automatically provide one, your parish music director can help you find a competent cantor to minister at your wedding. An assembly joined together in sung prayer, praise and blessing is a wonderful gift to give a couple beginning their lives together!
Preparing Your Marriage Liturgy
Many engaged couples schedule their weddings a year or more in advance. Some reception facilities require at least this much advance notice, and the myriad details involved in wedding planning can easily occupy a couple for the better part of a year! For a couple planning to marry in the church, a major focus during this time is their preparation for the sacrament of ma
rriage. Using a variety of formats, a parish's or diocese's marriage preparation program help couples prepare for the life long covenant they will establish at their wedding. The couples' reflections on their faith and the church's faith concerning marriage are an important starting point for their preparations for the wedding liturgy.
The church's Rite of Marriage presents the couple as the minister of the sacrament of marriage and invites their participation in the preparation of the wedding liturgy. In conjunction with the priest or deacon who will preside at the wedding, the couple chooses among several options for the various prayer texts and scripture readings that will be proclaimed at the wedding liturgy. With the parish music director, the couple chooses hymns, acclamations, a responsorial psalm and instrumental music. Individuals need to be asked to serve as ushers, lectors and ministers of the eucharist. Most parishes provide couples with a book to guide them through these choices.
Like the other aspects of a wedding, the wedding liturgy is more apt to be free of anxiety and open to genuine celebration if it has been prepared well in advance of the wedding day. No one is served well by leaving decisions and details to the last minute. By preparing the wedding liturgy together, the couple has a wonderful opportunity to share their faith with each other, to explore the church's faith concerning marriage in the scriptures, to discover the ways in which their families celebrated special events, and to practice the kind of selfless concern for each other that will nurture and sustain the life long covenant of marriage.
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